This is The Secret to Living a Life Without Regret

This is The Secret to Living a Life Without Regret

Visibly distraught, the young woman lamented:
“I tried and I failed. What do I do now?” The old man fell silent. He stood up and leaned over the bench to pluck
a white flower from the garden floor. He sat back down. Gently fiddling with its petals, he looked
at her and said: “All that matters, love, is that you were
brave enough to try.” He paused to stretch his arm out and hand
her the flower. “You won’t understand this now, but in
twenty years, you’ll be so glad you did.” Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent
a number of years caring for patients nearing the end of their time on earth. When she’d questioned her patients about
any regrets they had or anything they would have done differently, Bronnie noted that
five common themes surfaced again and again. Years later, in her book, she identified “The
Top Five Regrets of the Dying.” They are:
I wish I hadn’t worked so much. I wish I’d had the courage to express my
feelings. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. I wish that I had let myself be happier. And the most common regret is this:
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected
of me. “This was the most common regret of all,”
noted Bronnie. “Most people had not honoured even a half
of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not
made.” Facing their own mortality, realizing that
their life is on the verge of its expiry, they looked back and thought: How many of
my dreams have gone unfulfilled? In the future, we will regret the actions
we didn’t take more so than the ones we did. We will regret the book we didn’t try to
write; but had we done so, we would’ve fulfilled our dream of becoming a writer. We will regret the side project we didn’t
find the courage to pursue; but had we done so, it could’ve perhaps transformed into
a thriving and successful business. In their research on regret that was published
in 1995, Gilovich & Medvec concluded that “when people look back on their lives, it
is the things they have not done that generate the greatest regret… People’s actions may be troublesome initially;
it is their inactions that plague them most with long-term feelings of regret.” In short, today’s inactions will translate
into tomorrow’s regrets. What you’re too afraid to do today, twenty
years from now, you’ll most probably wish you had done. Don’t let that happen. Choose to live a life that’s true to you. And what does that entail? It’s a life lived fully, without fear. It’s a life lived with purpose, without
hesitation. It’s a life where you find the courage within
you to follow your calling and dare to give it all your energy. It’s a life where you create your own definition
of success. It’s a life lived with meaning and purpose
where your priorities are to work in balance, where you fully express your true feelings,
where you stay in touch with the people you love and you allow yourself to be happy with
how things progress. It’s a life where, through the unfolding
years, you don’t say: “I wish I had.” And instead, you say:
“I’m glad I did.” “I’m glad I wrote that book. It didn’t generate many sales, but it set
me on a path to write my second book and that was a best-seller.” “I’m glad I launched my own clothing line. It took three years of sacrifice and hard
work, but today, five years later, I’m living my dream.” “I wish I had” versus “I’m glad I
did”. These four words will be the difference between
a life well lived and a life filled with regret. Perhaps we won’t understand it now. But as per Mark Twain’s words:
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t
do than by the ones that you did do.” This is what I remind myself when I struggle
as an entrepreneur. This is what I remind myself when I struggle
as a writer. I don’t know the outcome, but I’ll keep
on trying, because, in twenty years, while others say “I wish I did”, I’ll look
back and proudly say, “I’m glad, I did”. So, ask yourself this question:
In twenty years, what will I regret?

24 thoughts on “This is The Secret to Living a Life Without Regret”

  1. Thank you for watching! I know many of you will be self-isolating so I will be doing my best to support you by continuing to put out as much content over the next few weeks & months as possible. Enjoy!

  2. Better to fail many times than to live a life of regret. Regret is a beginning to unlimited suffering.

  3. Video just in time, I am in regret whatever the decisions I made 🙁 (not regretting, its like I don't know the right thing) hope this video helps me

  4. Actually, we need a healthy balance of self-compassion and this drive. If all we do is perpetuate this narrative of fulfill all your dreams, live life without regrets, you will also be massively disappointed especially in this day and age where you will desire more and adapt your expectations, and there are infinite things you can do. While this is true, especially as a perfectionist, this will lead to living a life of burden of squandered potential and animosity towards your past self. Total acceptance combined with this desire, although contradictory, is necessary. But nonetheless, great video, this is just part of the equation.

  5. "The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away." –Anonymous

  6. I have many regrets. Two of the biggest are not working on decreasing my social anxiety and not developing discipline sooner. It’s left me in quite a hairy situation when I lost my sight.
    I’m slowly working on it as I can. It’s a little too slow for my taste, but I’m still seeing small increments of improvement. It’s something.

  7. "From birth we're taught how to survive
    We're taught how war is waged
    And there are no men now alive
    Who stop our wild rampage

    Light at heart we bide our bane
    whatever death awaits!
    Norsemen live without regrets
    We accept our woven fates

    So fearlessly we charge ahead
    There is no time to hesitate

    Don't despair, show no fear
    Live your life without regrets
    Don't despair and show no fear
    In the face of a certain death

    A coward thinks he'll always live
    If it keeps himself from strife
    Old age leaves no rest and peace
    though spears may spare his life

    We don't mourn a friend that fell
    or dread the day we'll fall ourselves
    Warriors don't go to Hel
    'cause we know Ygg will greet us well!

    Fearlessly we charge ahead
    There is no time to hesitate

    Don't despair, show no fear
    Live your life without regrets
    Don't despair and show no fear
    In the face of a certain death

    So raise your horns to those who died
    Let's drink to fallen friends tonight
    Let's celebrate their glory life
    We'll meet again in Valhall when we die
    When we die!
    When we die!" – Amon Amarth, "Live Without Regrets"

  8. Go into debt, live in regret. Don't borrow money and you'll learn to plan and save and be much so more "able" to steer your future. The borrower is slave to the lender.

  9. Self help industry? More like Self Destruction industry.Self help videos make me doubt myself,regrets,make me feel insecure.

  10. It’s Jeffrey. I always ask someone or myself to project to the last days. What would you be thinking about? If there are regrets handle them today

  11. I wish I’d been so scared I regret and you choose to live a life, you create what you want I’m glad I launched my new clothing line, you will be I’m glad I did.

  12. The 5 regrets don't apply to me, but I do feel crushing regrets about spending too much time in my head, investing too much research and preparation into endeavours I later learned weren't for me, too much talking, and studying rather than taking action and doing exciting things. I avoided any potentially-harmful experiences, constantly settled for things, and missed having a 'youth' (very uncommon, most regret not having studied and prepared well like me) and having a mid-life crisis about having one. XD Now as the world is shutting down with corona, I still lament having just come into position to live out my dreams but no longer can. Partially because of age, partially responsibilities (married, pregnant etc) and partially societal shut-down. Does anyone else go to bed burning with a desire to go back in time with their current knowledge into their young body and re-do many decisions? Every week also brings with it a big mistake that is hard to remedy, and I wish I could go back to re-do that event. I can't seem to let go of all the things I missed out on, and though I have the knowledge now for an awesome life ahead – I am still at the mercy of larger forces. Anyone in my situation? What are you doing to remedy it?

  13. Im glad you did this video. It made me feel that I am not alone for chosing the things that resonate my calling.

    People do call you crazy but I know my purpose.
    Thanks for being a modern and visiual version of Napaleon Hill.

  14. Dying people are liers. Where are some hard regrets, like cheating on your spouse and making your children help cover it up and estranging everyone!

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